My mother was a very relational person. She knew everyone – almost. And she knew to welcome everyone. This is one of the most important lessons I will ever learn from her. To love and honor people is no easy fit. People are complicated, friends become weird and brothers fight! It is hard work loving people and remaining committed to loving them. Yet when I look back at my mother, she seemed to pull this off effortlessly.
Sunday lunch always had a guest – a friend or a relative – to catch up with. Clearly, I have not been as great at this. She would spend the precious hours of her weekend attending events, weddings, funerals, vigils, and many others. I always never understood why everyone expected her to be there all the time.
In hindsight, I wish I had gleaned those lessons in time. Now, I find my calendar at a stretch to go visit and attend to everyone. It is easy to hide your head in the sand, thinking I cannot please everyone. But am sure we all know someone who manages to be the people person – and we simply wonder, how do they do it? We all have 24 hours, how is it that they manage to make time for everyone and we just want to hoard the time for ourselves?
Gabriella’s mother is another woman I find very interesting. I am yet to observe a very hardworking woman such as this. She gets tired very often, but if there’s one thing I can count on, she is such a home maker! She has a zeal for a nice and good home; she keeps an eye for speck of any kind of mess. When its all said, and done, beds are straight, the girls rest and I get the rest!
In the 21st century, these 2 qualities are perhaps the most intrinsic qualities of a good woman, and an accomplished mother – to remain relational and friendly in the face of 5 inch mobile screens and tablets; and to remain a hardworking home maker when you could throw money at “the problem”.
I honor these women, for who they are to me but also for the example they represent for the hundreds of girls waiting to turn into women. Happy Mother’s Day.
So its February 14th – Valentine’s Day, and it sure is going to be red and all…But what does it really mean? To love the way we celebrate the day, what does it really mean? I know its just 24hours, and by no means can you suppose to package all your undying love into such a miserly tiny speck of time.
So i wonder, all the flowers, and chocolate bars – if they cannot embody how much you love, why not say it. What does it really mean our loved one?
Well, i went to the book, yes, the book, thats been there the longest, and had the biggest influence of all books. In there, i found the familiar ‘Love is Patient, Love is Kind’ passage in 1Corinthians 13.
But in the same book, there is the atypical Romans 12: verse 9 to 21. Here its Love in Action! Pure Simple.
My challenge to us all, is, as we celebrate Valentine’s today, How much of our Love is really Action? Afterall, if we do it everyday, it will become a habit – and individuals will be changed. Daughters will gleen sacrifices of their mothers, and happilly grow into them. Sons will understand honor, from their fathers. Families will be changed, communities transformed, villages turned on their heads – nations, will smile at their former selves.
Love will Change the World – one act at a time.
So last night, on NTV (local TV Station) a guy show was premiered. Presidential Suite of the Sheraton Kampala Hotel – first place to impress! Especially considering that the show’s entree was Sex, the camera shot of petals in the bath tub, i just went like hmmmm…sweeeeet!
But that’s to sell you short, Collin, Joseph and Ransom (the only Married) did a splendid job for a first show. They concentrated on basics – Food, Freedom and Sex. Its Men we are talking about, so Sex was always going to be on the cards. Its a basic need for guys. Pure, Simple, Raw!
Collin – a single, self-celebrated wild horse, spilled a few hints about his ideal evenings, ladies, you better be careful. Collins is self-confessed ‘catch-me-if-u-can’ or as he mildly put it, “if you can run with me, lets go”! He cooks, and he firmly believes Good Sex has everything to do with a good position…
Ransom, a father of 3, epitomizes a good man. Committed, Smart, a Father. He seemed to have his head screwed on right – and am pretty sure his wife prepared him somethin… He simply left us wanting to peek more into his family. Understand how he orchestrates all that music – fine music, is how he painted his life. Impressive!
Joseph, hmmm. I kinda wonder what kind of Man he really is. His views were warm, and he seemed advanced in age, but he is unmarried. So he mostly spoke from perceived experiences. He dropped a bomb shell about MEN having to detach themselves from their mothers’ cooking. I know this is a hard nut to crack for most women.
Peter Igaga, did a great moderation job. He wasn’t quite sure what Great Sex is to him, despite asking the same of the 3. So i can tell that this bunch of guys are going to be a great cast in themselves.
So, are these the only basics in a man’s life? Can a man ultimately be down to these 3 – Sex, Food and Freedom? How about money? Not basic enough? Are we that simple? And still women like to creep into our minds to try and decipher. Little wonder, i could not avoid the hot question, from a tweeter friend – were Sex, Food and Freedom in any particular order? I wonder, is it important that your woman knows which order these 3 come, in as far as you are concerned? Would this order represent priority or preference? Are the 2 even distinct?